I think words are a great way to deliver Wellness. I’m a therapist by trade and provide my service mostly …
Couples Therapy Palo Alto: Relationships in the Tech World.
Relationships in the Tech World are hard Being an Asian American couples therapist, in the Bay Area specializing in Couples …
Shelter in place
The coronavirus has turned the world upside down. It’s taken many lives, caused the economy to plummet in ways never …
How Understanding Your Brain Can Help You Learn
A new book explains six keys to learning that can help anyone overcome barriers to success in school or in …
How Life Became an Endless, Terrible Competition
Meritocracy prizes achievement above all else, making everyone—even the rich—miserable. Maybe there’s a way out. In the summer of 1987, …
Parenting In The Age Of Screens: Here’s What The Experts Do
Parents today struggle to set screen time guidelines. One big reason is a lack of role models. Grandma doesn’t have …
Regret can seriously damage your mental health – here’s how to leave it behind
The emotion can be all-consuming and destructive, as therapists see only too often. But learning from your mistakes has the …
How to Befriend Your Life As It Is
Learning to befriend all moments places us firmly in the life we are living, rather than the ideal life we …
How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger
Back in the 1960s, a Harvard graduate student made a landmark discovery about the nature of human anger. At age …
Could Your Mindset Affect How Well A Treatment Works?
Anxiety about side effects can keep people from starting or sticking to drug regimens or medical procedures. A group of …
What Happens When You Embrace Dark Emotions
A psychologist explains how to face emotional challenges using mindfulness, acceptance, and self-compassion. When I was 15, my mother died …
What Happens When People Are Intentionally More Open to New Experiences?
New research investigates the effects of engaging in behaviors associated with openness to new experiences. Since a large part of …
How I Learned To Talk To My Filipino Mom About My Mental Health
It started with accepting just how different our life experiences have been. I was having a tough summer. I was …
How Technology is Hijacking Your Mind
“It’s easier to fool people than to convince them that they’ve been fooled.” — Unknown. I’m an expert on how technology hijacks …
Can Family Secrets Make You Sick?
In the 1980s, Dr. Vincent Felitti, now director of the California Institute of Preventive Medicine in San Diego, discovered something …
The Neuroscience of Creativity
Neuroscientific investigations often cross the borders between scientific disciplines; they walk boldly from biology to psychology and stride straight through …
How to Survive Your Midlife Blues
Midlife malaise is common, but take heart: Happiness tends to rebound as we get older, and there are ways to …
Utilizing Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace
Emotional intelligence, sometimes referred to as EQ, refers to a person’s ability to recognize, understand, manage, and reason with emotions. …
People With Strong Self Control Are Less Hungry & Tired?!
You may think of people with high self-control as having enviable reserves of willpower, but recent findings suggest this isn’t …
What Adults Can Learn From Dutch Children’s Books
It is an often overlooked fact that one of the easiest ways to learn about a foreign culture is through …
I Found My Birth Mother. It Didn’t Rock My Life — And That’s OK
I don’t know anyone who looks like me. I used to stare at family photos and search my parents’ faces …
What’s Going On In Your Child’s Brain When You Read Them A Story?
“I want The Three Bears!” These days parents, caregivers and teachers have lots of options when it comes to fulfilling …
The Stress That Children Add to a Marriage
It’s a common experience, but not one that everyone talks about: you had a wonderfully romantic relationship before getting married …
We All Think We Know The People We Love. We’re All Deluded
The average human brain contains roughly 100 billion neurons, each of which is attached to thousands of other neurons, meaning …
The Downside To Positive Stereotypes
Positive stereotypes can make people feel like failures if they don’t fulfill them. During my senior year of high school, …
The Secret to a Happy Marriage Is Knowing How to Fight
It’s peak “engagement season” — the span of time between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day when, according to the website WeddingWire, …
What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Love
In this talk, Mandy Len Catron speaks about the reality of love. She describes her own story and explains a …
A ‘Hot Zone’ In The Brain May Reveal When, And Even What, We Dream
Most of us have about five dreams each night, though we’re not likely to remember any of them. But a …
9 Principles to Help You Keep Calm in Chaos
Act on your principles, not your moods. How the ancient philosophy of Stoicism can help us smash creative blocks and …
My Non Stereotypical Asian Tiger Parents
The day I received my letter of acceptance to New York University, I was ecstatic. It was my dream university, …
Can Stimulating a Nerve in the Ear Make You a Whiz in Mandarin Class?
In April the Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency (DARPA) announced contracts for a program to develop practical methods to help …
Common Issues In Therapy: Communication, Money and Trust
Based on my many years of working with couples, the 3 most common issues that come up in therapy are: …
How Laughter Brings Us Together
New research suggests that people who laugh together like each other more. Victor Borge once wrote, “Laughter is the closest …
How to Stay Empathic without Suffering So Much
What happens when we feel empathy for another person? What are you feeling when that chronically anxious student sinks further …
What is A Marriage and Family Therapist?
The term Marriage and Family Therapy is inherently somewhat confusing. Do we not deal with issues outside of the marriage …
Do Women Really Show Their Emotions More Than Men?
It’s a stereotype that has improved a little over the years but still persists: women are more emotionally expressive than …
My Passion: Working With Couples
I’m an extremely fortunate therapist who’s able to do exactly what he’s passionate about: Couples Counseling Burlingame (or Relationship Therapy). …
Is Therapy Just Talk?
Psychotherapy is often referred to as talk therapy where the client and therapist’s primary means of interaction is talking. But …
Regardless of one’s background, we all have life challenges to overcome
One question I get asked a lot is: “When should one ask for professional help?” As a psychotherapist, I’ve had …
How A Sweet Rice Dish Connects A Woman To Her History
I have always found it difficult to explain my family’s syncretic faith traditions to both white Americans and to other …
Acceptance Vs. Agreement
Regardless of the nature of a personal relationship, be it parent/child, husband/wife, close friends, etc, acceptance plays a critical role …
How to Talk to My Kid?
Sometimes it can feel that teenagers are some of the most difficult people to understand on the planet. On top …
Chill Out, Parents
A few years ago I worked with a 14 year old boy who had a really difficult relationship with his …
To Be Asian or to Be American
Asian Americans make up 5.8 percent of the total American population. On January 28th this year, many Asian Americans will …
HOW PEOPLE LEARN TO BECOME RESILIENT
Norman Garmezy, a developmental psychologist and clinician at the University of Minnesota, met thousands of children in his four decades …
Choosing To Renounce My Mother Tongue
Chinese immigrants of my generation in America criticize my English for not being native enough. A compatriot, after reading my …
How To Make Hard Choices
Here’s a talk that could literally change your life. Which career should I pursue? Should I break up — or …
The Theory of Grit
Grit: The power of passion and perseverance. Leaving a high-flying job in consulting, Angela Lee Duckworth took a job teaching …
Born In The U.S., Raised In China: ‘Satellite Babies’ Have A Hard Time Coming Home
Chun Zheng has lived through a house fire, a flood and an earthquake. None of that, she says, compares to …
How to Resist the Urge to Buy Something
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. It starts …
Struggling To Accept A Career
Career choices are not obvious or simple to make. Experts have found that biases that we are not aware of …
A new San Francisco program serves Chinese Seniors
James Wong is a man of routine. Every morning, the 63-year-old resident of San Francisco’s Sunset District meets his friends …
I’m Asian American & My Experience in Therapy
Therapy is especially stigmatized in Asian American communities, where saving face is of utmost importance. Acknowledging your problems is akin …




















































